Many parents live with the joy of the birth of a child without knowing that it will be difficult. However, we all know how difficult parenting is. After giving birth, parents live like Superman or Wonder Woman. A mother spends all day feeding and clothing her children, so she doesn’t even pay attention to herself. When her child’s sleep rhythm is disrupted, she often stays up all night crying.
Before the child is born, she just hopes that he will be born healthy quickly. However, from the moment a child is born, the difficult path of parenting begins for new parents. There are many times when I am exhausted from raising a child and desperately want to get some sleep. As she spends all day with her child, she cannot even care about what she eats, what she wears, or even her hair. That’s why she doesn’t even want to look in the mirror.
Her parents have a consistent wish for the child she raised with all her heart. They are nice, good at studying, good at sports, popular with their friends, graduated from a good department at a good university that others envy, get a good job, meet a decent spouse, and get married. So she has something to say that she wants to hear from people around her.
“How did you raise your child so well?”
“How can I raise them like that?”
“Oh my god, how do you study so well?”
“What is the secret to raising a good child?”
“It must be great to get into a good university. “How did you teach me?”
When I hear things like this, I feel like I am a good parent. I pretend not to be on the outside, but I am so happy on the inside that I don’t know what to do. I feel like I have the whole world. On the other hand, it is hurtful to hear things that seem to be even the slightest weakness in my child.
It is natural to be envious of parents who have so-called successful children. It’s natural to feel envious when you see someone who is rich and successful. I also worry about why I couldn’t educate my child like that. I’m also upset why I can’t live like that. But the most important thing is that everyone has their own life. There is a different life that suits my child.
It’s not something you can do just because you’re anxious. You should not be swayed by someone’s words. What we need most is to listen to our inner voice, love ourselves, and live as ourselves. Likewise for children, we must love them and help them live like children. Then you will be free from the gaze of others.
